The holidays are about slowing down, coming together, and remembering what’s important.
But wait – there’s a handmade gift market on Saturday. And a Christmas concert on Sunday. The kids can pet live reindeer, and ride on a Christmas train, and eat a pancake breakfast with elves. Matt’s coworkers are throwing a holiday party, and so is our homeschool group, and the neighbors, and our high school friends, and our college friends, and the moms from that parenting class I took when Henry was first born, and no one wants to make a big thing about presents, but all of those $10-20 gifts sure add up fast.
This Christmas, I’m trying to remember to slow down when it’s not important and say yes when it is.
Yes to skipping nature school when Gus would rather cuddle up on the couch and watch the snow fall.
Yes to staying up late to decorate the tree.
Yes to an extra cookie.
Yes to a simple Christmas.
To make room for the extra activities that happen around the holidays, other things have to go.
Bedtime, first of all. We’re staying up late, playing outside with Matt when he comes home from work, decorating the Christmas tree before bed, lingering at dinner parties with family and friends. And so the boys are sleeping in late in the morning. We’re staying in our pajamas longer. We haven’t made it to every one of Gus’s swim lessons this session, and he skipped a few days of nature class. I’m way behind on the laundry.
I’m finding a place for slow in the midst of all the fast.
I’m looking for yes, too. Not necessarily yes to another so-called Christmas activity, but yes to an activity that the kids choose themselves. As fun as the holidays are for kids, all the schlepping around from place to place, the itineraries, the timelines, the posed pictures in front of the tree – that’s all adult-led. It can be refreshing to let the kids set the pace.
This weekend, I’m going out of town to visit my new niece, and the boys are having a daddycation. Gus and Matt have big plans, as you can see.
How are you finding calm this holiday season?